Marriage is the union of a man and woman to become one for procreation and to fulfill the will of God. Marriage is to be sweet, pleasurable, fun, in fact, any good thing that you can imagine. No disadvantage in marriage because whatever the Lord made is meant to be perfect.

For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord, thought of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end .

(Jeremiah 29:11 KJV)
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But a perfect marriage doesn’t just happen, it has to be made happen by both partners. A peaceful marriage is a function of its foundation. I will like us to know that the success of every marriage is the responsibility of the man even though the woman has a part to play.

As it is written that the man is the head of the home, head simply means the foundation and if the foundation is faulty anything built on it is doomed for destruction. As earlier said, the man cannot achieve a successful home without the cooperation of the woman but the fact still boils down to the man been the principal factor for the success of any marriage.

As a man, you need the following acts to make your home peaceful which should also be a prototype for any man in a relationship leading to marriage.


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No human is an island. We are prone to make a mistake that is why God did not create us as an angel. Your wife is not a mistake-free personality. As a man, we need to practice what I called advanced forgiveness.

Not forgiving is one of the sole destroyers of marriage or a relationship. There are things a man should always overlook, not everything demands you striving or challenging your wife or partner. When we have a clear understanding of the importance of forgiveness, our home will always be as peaceful as a dove.

Clear Instruction

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If you don’t instruct your wife, you will misjudge or creating room for assumption. And your wife can probably make mistakes. I want you to know women are like computers, what you input determines what they will output.

The woman is a helper in marriage and she is there to assist you in all areas of your life. But if you do not instruct her on the area she should help. She might probably not know everything. Therefore, always give clear instructions to your wife and you will see the power of a woman to be an all-round assistant.

Be Open To Assessment

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A man who cannot be assessed will end up in a recess. Sometimes, you should create room for feedback. Don’t be rigid as iron and don’t feel you are always right in every action you take in the home because you are the head. You can simply try to find out from your woman if she is pleased with you.

Women are created to endure more than men. If men are given a chance to go through the pressure of child labor, I can say out of hundred men few percentages would survive it if there will be any at all.

Your wife can be enduring your actions and not show them but that doesn’t mean you have a peaceful home. Always try to ask your wife if she is pleased with you and if not seek an area where she want you to improve. You can go to God for the Grace for development.


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What have learnt and seen is that women are word believers in a relationship and super believer when your words are backed up by a corresponding action. What you say can only be heard but what you do can be seen.

You will agree with me that what you hear can be forgotten but what you see can never be forgotten. You can always playback the picture in your mind when needed. Therefore, your action is your picture of how you love or care about your wife. So let your action speaks.

Seek Wisdom

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Whatever is challenging requires wisdom to get it solved, and whatever is successful requires wisdom to get it sustained. The effort needed to succeed in life cannot be compared to the effort needed to sustain your success. God has presented us with the opportunity to always come to Him when we needed wisdom.

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him .

(James 1:5 KJV)

Therefore, always seek wisdom for the development and sustenance of a peaceful and successful home.

Conclusion: A successful marriage is a work, and without work, you lose worth. As a man, for you to have a successful home, you need to take responsibility to make the home peaceful. When you practice timely forgiveness in marriage, you see the tension you feel in your home will not be felt anymore. Giving timely instruction to your wife is very essential and adequately getting your partner informed because if she is not informed, she will be deformed. Be opened for assessment, let your action speak positively in your home and do not underestimate the area of seeking wisdom from God to keep your home running smoothly.

Jesus is Lord!!!



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