Discussing your problem in an attempt to search for solutions is not complaining but talking about pain and discomfort will only bring you more of the same and encourage those around you to look for exits. “Self-pity is an acid which eats holes in happiness”- Earl Nightingale.
It simply makes no sense to get upset about things over which you have no control and which have no significant impact on your life. For example, you hear the horn of a car passing by and you start complaining about the loudness of the car. How did that affect your life? Or is there anything you can do to stop the loudness of the car horn?
Marriage is the union of a man and woman to become one for procreation and to fulfill the will of God. Marriage is to be sweet, pleasurable, fun, in fact, any good thing that you can imagine. No disadvantage in marriage because whatever the Lord made is meant to be perfect.
For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord, thought of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end .
Your success starts with you and it grows to a higher level as a result of your associations and relationships. Zig Ziglar said and I quote “You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want”.
When you develop the habit of thinking about others instead of you all the time, you will automatically attract others to you in return. Self-centred people are never satisfied but you get satisfied when you help others achieve their goal.
Your day goes the way the corners of your mouth turn. Your mouth is the turning point of whatever you will experience in life. The question How Are You? may seem very small but we must endeavor to answer this question at least a minimum of 10 times in a day and up to 50 times if we can.
Your response to this question tells a lot about you and your attitude. And your response can change your attitude. I will like to group the response to this question into three different categories.
Marriage is gold and like most precious metals you must invest time and resources to secure it and fashion it into a jewel of great price. If a man is not experiencing fulfilment in marriage, it is not because God did not create it to be fulfilling but because man has left God out of marriage.
What most people think is marriage is actually the ceremony called a wedding so they take their time planning for a wedding instead of their marriage. Wedding is just a party where the public gathers to witness the two individuals that are going into marriage together. Marriage comes after the party is over.
We don’t know how powerful we are until we start to put our will into action. Your will is a force of deliverance from any issues of life. It is a potent heaven-invested force inside every mortal being. It can determine your habit because what you want is your desire but what you will is your decision.
Your desire can be dislodged, but your decision can’t because it is stronger than your desire. Your desire is your wish whereas your decision is your choice. It is your will that determines your way, and until you will you don’t win.
One of the complex institutions in life is a relationship. So many relationships have failed not because it lacks love but compatibility and adequate knowledge was never considered at the beginning.
There are some things to tolerate but some acts must never be tolerated in a relationship. You can tolerate marrying a lady that snores while sleeping when love is the foundation but you must never tolerate a man who feels it’s normal to beat his partner else they will use her as a case study after she is beaten to death by the same man when they get married.
There are some things we must do and put into an act for us to have a successful relationship. Kindly follow me through this journey of illumination as the factors are listed